Why do you hate Thailand?
I honestly don’t get it.
I was reading a post on one of the teaching rooms in Thailand and a guy asked a question about people with experience dropping everything back in the west to move over here and live a more relaxed lifestyle. He hasn’t come here yet but he wants too. Many people gave great answers about coming over here, why they left their job, yadda yadda yadda.It was actually turning into an interesting discussion.
THEN The INEVITABLE happened!!!
They didn’t go off on Thailand like people usually do who hate it here, but he said this place sucks, it’s a dump, don’t come, etc etc. I didn’t want to do it in the teaching room and hijack the guys thread. I had to reminded myself that is one of the many reasons why I started a blog. I’m getting off topic. Anyway, from time to time I hear people say how this place sucks. That’s what begs the question that I really want a sincere answer to.
Why the hell are you still here if you hate Thailand so much?
I’m not one of those people here that I call “purists.” The ones who will jump on you if you say the slightest negative thing about Thailand. Yeah, there are plenty of problems around here. Any self-respecting Thai would agree that their country isn’t perfect and has room for improvement. I’ve personally had my issues with some things and people around here but overall since I started teaching ESL oversea with one year in Indonesia and the past three years here in Thailand, my quality of life has been much better back home. Still, I need to ask the question again, why are you still here if you hate Thailand so much?
One thing I know many people complain about, and probably one of the main reasons why people say Thailand sucks is the women. Guys have said they can’t be trusted, all the care about is money, one friend of mine said one of his buddies had to change apartments a few times because each of his ex-girlfriends turned out to be psychos. It’s one of the reasons why he says the only good ones are the “ladies of the night.”
My thought is, “If all of your ex-girlfriends have been psychos, why do you keep going back to the same place every time? Change your venue.”
Then again, what do I know?
Here is why I am confused.
I’ve battled depression in many periods of my life. I’m not talking about boo-hoo everybody gets a trophy, my Presidential candidate lost the election, snow flake depression. I mean stuff so bad where I literally could not get out of bed. I mean “my life is over and I’m going to be useless to family friends and society” type depression. It was from events that were horribly rough in my life. The worst part about those events was feeling trapped. Feeling confined and thinking you can’t escape from misery is a hell I would never wish for anyone to experience.
Even when I am thinking about it right now as I am typing, I feel a sense of gratitude that I was able to get out of those holes. It was far from easy while having severely low physical and mental energy. It took everything I had to fight and claw my way out of those holes. Some would take months, one particular time took years. I’m still affected by that one instance. It’s why I’m still so damn big, but this year I am ready to finally get the weight off because it sucks being as big as I am.
Like Rocky brilliantly put it….
If you don’t like where you are in life, get the fuck out of that place be it physical or mental. It doesn’t matter how long it takes, you have to push through it until you feel like you can’t push anymore and then push that much farther. There is always an answer. There is always a way. Never say can’t. Can’t is bullshit. Can’t means two things 1) I don’t want to OR 2) I don’t know how.
So which is it?
This is where I place the ball in your court. I’m not here to bust your balls I really want to know if you are here and you hate it, why don’t you leave? If you have nowhere to go, there is always Cambodia, Laos, or even Nam where you can go and teach if you want. Visas don’t seem to be as big of a pain in the ass there. Do you not have enough money? Did you escape Thailand and are somewhere else now?
Do you even have an exit plan? There is always a way out of something you don’t like.
Go ahead and comment below, I’d love to read your thoughts.